Regression Therapy

Regression therapy originated in hypnotherapy. It is a technique used to help someone access a past memory in order to heal a present issue and can work wonders with inexplicable fears, guilt or shame, anxiety, depression, relationship issues, or with a number of psychosomatic problems. It is a safe, low-cost, and drug-free way to overcome psychological issues and its effects can be immediate.

For example, a client came to me for help with a fear of closed-in spaces, especially airplanes. She had to travel the next day by airplane and wanted to reduce her anxiety before and during the flight. When I regressed her to the point of the first occurrence of her fear of closed-in spaces, she was able to remember a time when she was very young and would hide in a closet whenever her parents argued. This memory was the trigger point to her current fear of closed-in spaces.

Oftentimes, just the remembrance of a past memory can greatly reduce or alleviate the present effect. In this case, my client reported that although her claustrophobia symptoms were not entirely alleviated, her symptoms were reduced to the point where she was able to relax enough to enjoy the flight.

Another client of mine who was accosted by a burglar while in her home, requested regression hypnotherapy to remember more details about the experience in order to help the police solve the crime. A detective joined us during the session and recorded it in case additional details were uncovered. We agreed that the primary goal of the session would be to reduce her fear so that she could once again sleep and feel safety in her own home. Although a few more details about the attack were revealed during the session, the most important result was that her fear was greatly reduced to the point that she was able to sleep for the first time since the incident. Over the following weeks, she reported to me that the hypnosis session reduced her fear and allowed her to once again feel peace and safety in her own home.

Past-life regression therapy is a form of hypnotherapy used to help a person access a previous lifetime memory to understand and resolve a current unexplained issue. Whether the story brought to mind while under hypnosis is true or a fabrication of the mind is not the focus of the session. The focus is on using the healing power of our subconscious mind and imagination to learn about and resolve the present issue at hand.

If you have questions about regression or past-life regression hypnotherapy and how it may be able to help you, please contact me. I would be happy to answer your questions.

Deborah Perkins

Luminous Transformations

480-788-7140

Deborah@LuminousTransformations.com

EFT - Tapping Your Way to Health and Wellbeing

The Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is a method of energetic healing that utilizes a number of theories from alternative medicine such as acupuncture, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), energy medicine, and Thought Field Therapy (TFT).  While related to acupuncture, EFT does not use needles. Instead, it is a simple process wherein a person mentally tunes into a specific issue while stimulating certain meridian points on the body by tapping on them with their fingertips. When properly done, EFT balances disturbances in the meridian system thereby reducing the duration of conventional therapy procedures. Anyone can learn the techniques and experience positive results.

EFT is used for physical, emotional, and performance issues and operates on the premise that there are unresolved emotional issues causing a disruption in the body’s energy system. Even physical issues such as chronic pain and diagnosed illnesses can be caused by emotional stress that impedes the body’s natural ability to heal itself. Some of the emotional impediments to health that EFT is used to alleviate are stress, anger, fear, grief and low self-esteem.

Losing weight is a cultural obsession backed by a billion-dollar industry. While healthy eating habits and exercise are important ingredients for achieving and maintaining optimal weight, most often there are emotional issues driving poor or obsessive eating habits. EFT works on the energy body to release blockages that build up in the body’s energy pathways (meridians) from traumatic life experiences and negative emotions. Once the energy pathways are cleared and energy is able to flow freely once again, the body can do the work it is designed and heal emotional and physical issues.

One of the best things about EFT is that it is safe, free to practice, and can be done almost anywhere with only 5 brief steps to complete. Once the technique is memorized, each round can be performed in about 30 seconds. Click here for a brief intro (6:58 minutes) on EFT from founder Gary Craig. It is important to note that although you can learn and practice the techniques yourself, in order to receive the most benefit, work with a skilled practitioner. Email Deborah@LuminousTransformations.com or call to schedule an appointment and begin your journey to health and wellbeing. For special savings on your first appointment, click on the Join & Save button on the Luminous Transformations.

Deborah Perkins
Luminous Transformations

480-788-7140

Dream Weavers

Paramhansa Yogananda's poem "God! God! God!" referenced the idea of the mind weaving dreams. The original reference to the term "dream weaver" may have been spiritual, but many current teachings talk of using our mind's power to manifest our dreams. However, to be a powerful dream weaver requires that we know the threads needed to weave a dream into reality.

First, we begin with the threads of an idea or fantasy. Oftentimes these threads will appear as lucid dreams when our bodies and minds are relaxed and our imaginations engaged. Lucid dreams are dreams in which we are aware that we are dreaming, and usually occur spontaneously. With practice, anyone can cultivate this skill.

Some of the world’s greatest scientists and artists actively engaged in lucid dreaming. Albert Einstein regularly utilized the power of his lucid dreams and said, “Your imagination is your preview of life’s coming attractions.” Director, James Cameron, cited lucid dreams as being the inspiration for the movie Avatar. He said “…I’ve kind of realized that what I was trying to do was create dream imagery, create a lucid dream state while you’re watching the film.”

Successful dream weaving may start with a dream but it certainly doesn’t end there. The threads of passion and purpose must be woven into the fabric. Purpose weaves reason and meaning into the fabric, and passion weaves in the fire necessary to make the dream vibrant and compelling.

The next vital threads of our tapestry include our values and goals for these constitute our compass pointing us in the right direction. Furthermore, when we align our values and goals, we remain focused on the priorities of our work ensuring the most direct and luminous path to fulfillment.

Finally, we must weave in the threads of reality for powerful and successful dream weaving requires planning, hard work, dedication and persistence. Imagination and reality go hand-in-hand and are both necessary components for bringing your dreams to life.

When my mind weaves dreams
With threads of memories,
On that magic cloth will I emboss:
God! God! God!
- Paramhansa Yogananda

Control Dramas

Control dramas are behaviors exhibited to secure power or control over a person or group of people. They are conscious or unconscious struggles for power—competitions for human energy. Whether or not you are aware, you have exercised control dramas and have been the victim of other people’s control dramas throughout your life. However, you may find that there are 1 or 2 specific control dramas you demonstrate based on your personality type and learned behaviors.

In the book The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield, he outlines 4 major control dramas:

• The Intimidator: This highly aggressive control drama is demonstrated through threats, either verbal or physical, to force you to bend to this person’s will for fear that something bad might happen to you, or sometimes just to get you to pay attention to this person and give him or her your energy.
• The Poor Me or Victim: Contrary to the Intimidator drama, this control drama is very passive. A person demonstrating this drama will tell you all the horrible things that are happening to him or her, implying that you are responsible, and that if you refuse to help, these horrible things will continue. They position everything they say and do to put you in a place where you have to defend against the idea that you are not doing enough for this person. They make you feel guilty just being around them.
•  The Interrogator: The person demonstrating this control drama is subtle in their aggression, finding fault and slowly undermining your world in order to get your energy. They set up a drama of asking questions and probing into your world with the specific purpose of finding something wrong with your answers. Once they do, then they criticize this aspect of your life. If this strategy succeeds, you will suddenly find yourself becoming self-conscious about your words and actions. You will pay attention to what the interrogator is doing and thinking about because you don’t want to do something wrong that the Interrogator will notice. This psychic deference gives the Interrogator the energy he or she desires.
• The Aloof: A person demonstrating the Aloof control drama will withdraw from conversations. They will look and act mysterious and secretive and may tell you, or give you the impression, that they are being cautious when in fact they are trying to pull you into their drama. You will find yourself trying to figure out what is going on with the Aloof, perhaps questioning them. When you do question them, they will remain vague forcing you to struggle and dig more to discern their true feelings.

There is a noticeable pattern with these 4 basic control dramas. The Intimidator drama creates the Poor Me drama and when they are in a relationship together expressing their dramas, they will feed from each other’s energies. Interrogator control dramas create Aloof control dramas and vice versa. People who predominantly express these dramas will oftentimes be in relationships and feed from each other’s energies.

The key to letting go of a control drama is first to bring it fully into your awareness. You do that by looking back through your life at your behavior patterns in conflict situations. Notice the particular style of control you have exercised over others. Notice what you may have learned in childhood to get attention and energy moving your way. Perhaps you had a parent who exhibited Intimidator control drama behavior causing you to adopt Poor Me control drama behaviors.

Second, you must make a conscious decision to let go of the need to control others to get attention, or energy. Learn and practice techniques to defuse control dramas when demonstrated by you or others. Over time, you will find healthier alternatives to obtaining energy such as tapping into the infinite supply of universal energy through meditation.

Deborah Perkins
Luminous Transformations
480-788-7140

Clear Communication Boundaries

When we instill and honor healthy communication boundaries, we cultivate healthy relationships based on honesty and integrity. Setting and honoring healthy communication boundaries goes beyond what we say to people and how we say it. It also encompasses how we listen to people and what communication vehicles we use to best support our message.

For example, if you wanted to discuss a personal and sensitive issue with someone, would an email or text message be the best vehicle? We run the risk of being misinterpreted and alienating a customer, friend or loved one if the communication vehicle we choose doesn’t match the sensitivity of the communication.

Gossip is a major communication boundary violation. Gossip fosters unhealthy competition, creates negative and hurtful feelings, and sows discord and unease thereby creating distance between people. There is an important distinction between gossip and clarification. Gossip is when 2 or more people talk about someone who is absent, and the absent person is equally distant from both talkers.  However, when clarification occurs, the absent person is generally closer to the talker than to the listener.  The outcome of gossip is that the listener is stimulated to some type of action such as spreading the gossip to others, shunning the absent person, or changing their opinion about the absent person.  A clarifying conversation leads to action on the part of the speaker such as taking advice from the person they are talking to that leads to a change.

Here are some communication tips that will help you create and maintain healthy relationships:

•       Set clear boundaries around gossip and put a stop to it immediately whenever someone attempts to engage you in it.

•       Pay attention to other people’s boundaries and acknowledge boundaries that have been set.  If you want people to honor your boundaries, then you must do the same.

•       Whenever you are asked an appropriate question, refusing to respond is a communication violation.  If you are not able or ready to respond, be sure to clarify that you need more information or time.  If you need more time to contemplate your answer, let the person asking know when you will follow-up with an answer.

•       If someone gives you an answer that sets a boundary you don’t like and therefore decide to ignore, you are creating a communication boundary violation.  You don’t have to like an answer, but you do have to respect the person’s boundaries.

•       If you have a strained relationship with someone and haven’t made an attempt to remedy it, it would be inappropriate for you to ask for a favor without first addressing the state of your relationship.

•       Similarly, if you make a request from someone that is unusual or inappropriate to the nature of the relationship, this is also a communication boundary violation.  Be certain to precede your request with an acknowledgment that it is unusual and an explanation of why you are making the request.

Deborah Perkins

LuminousTransformations

480-788-7140

How Powerful are Your Stories?

We all have stories embedded in our minds, whether we are consciously or subconsciously aware of them.  These stories, created from our life experiences and the learnings we received, define who we are. The stories we share with others can either have rich meaning, purpose and powerful lessons or they can simply bend someone’s ear. Do the stories you tell others expose a level of vulnerability to help people know that you are capable of empathy and understanding?

Story telling predates writing, with the earliest form being oral with gestures.  Modern day story telling takes many forms, among them fairytales, legends, folktales and extends itself to represent history, political commentary and evolving cultural norms.

As we move through our life’s journey, an important goal is to learn from all of our experiences—the good and the bad—and to share these learnings with others. This is how we eventually become wise elders. Are you on the path to becoming a powerful and wise elder?

Richard J. Leider and David Shapiro, authors of Claiming Your Place at the Fire: Living the Second Half of Your Life on Purpose, believe that in order to develop our wisdom and become powerful elders in the second half of our lives, we must claim our place at the fire at every stage of our life journey. We claim our place at the fire by making valuable contributions to our family and society. Powerful story telling is one important contribution, regardless of age.

How are you claiming your place at the fire as you move along your life journey? Here are some questions to help you craft wise elder stories: 

• Which events in your lifetime made a difference in the life you have led?
• What are the lessons you learned from the choices you have made?
• Were these choices in alignment or out of alignment with your values?
• With each of these major choices, did you follow or ignore your intuitions?

Practice telling your stories in a way that demonstrates your wisdom. We all have valuable contributions we can make through our powerful wise elder stories.

Deborah Perkins
Luminous Transformations
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Creating and Honoring Healthy Boundaries

Do you find yourself saying “yes” when you really mean “no”?  Are there aspects of your life that aren’t going well but you aren’t certain what changes need to be made to bring them in better order?  Creating healthy boundaries is an important skill to cultivate in order to achieve a life of peace and joy.  At the same time, learning to recognize and honor other people’s boundaries is equally important for healthy and lasting relationships.

Boundaries provide a clear, moral compass.  They help us to align with our values, keep us on track with our goals and life, and they protect the important parts of ourselves like our energy, our physical body, our relationships and our time.

We all define and set goals for ourselves, but do you always ensure that these goals align with your values and boundaries?  Are you at all times truly aware of your priority values? Think about the parts of your life that are working well, that have integrity.  This wholeness comes from the boundaries you have set to protect them.  Now think about the parts of your life that are not working so well.  What do you think you need to do to make these parts work better?

A boundary is like a membrane, similar to your skin, which keeps your organs intact.  A boundary is a limit that promotes integrity. By the limits that you set, you protect the integrity of your day, your energy and spirit, the health of your relationships and the pursuits of your heart.  We have many types of boundaries that we consciously, subconsciously and even unconsciously create in our lives:

• Friendship boundaries
• Time boundaries
• Communication boundaries
• Anger boundaries
• Intimacy boundaries
• Gender boundaries (prevent sexual harassment and promote equality in the workplace)
• Appearance boundaries (e.g., dress codes, make-up)

Boundaries are intentions we make to help improve the quality of our life and relationships. Pick an area of your life that isn't going well. Now, ask yourself if you have clear boundaries in place. If so, when and where are you not honoring your boundaries? If you don't have clear boundaries in place, define your boundary goals by asking yourself the following questions:

• What isn't working?
• What needs to be done to make it work?
• What needs to happen first?
• What will be the consequences if others don't honor these boundaries?

Once you have defined your boundaries, communicate them and note any improvements that occur with regard to the situation you are addressing.  If you don’t see improvements, review your boundaries and ask yourself if they are too rigid or too flexible.  Make adjustments and re-communicate as needed.  The more you practice putting healthy boundaries in place and communicating them appropriately to others, the easier it will become!

Deborah Perkins

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